Is is appropriate to dance the salsa with other men besides bf?
I don't have a boyfriend now, but I'm just curious about this. I've always been interested in taking salsa lessons, but most guys have no interest in joining the girlfriend for something like that! So if you have a significant other that has no interest in salsa dancing, is it innapropriate to take lessons and go to clubs without him? As much as I want to learn the salsa, I try to put the shoe on the other foot: if I had a boyfriend that was dancing in a VERY sexy and sensual way with other women, I'm sure it would make me uncomfortable! From the little I've seen on TV (of people dancing salsa), it looks extremely sexual. Is there a way to dance the salsa without being disrespectful to the significant other? Or do they just have "to get over it"??!!
I don't see a problem. My wife and I salsa and when we go out together we dance with different people. And since we often live apart, we go dancing alone or with friends frequently. There is little reason to be jealous if it is just dancing (and you can tell when its not). Salsa is SENSUAL not SEXUAL. I should add, to learn to dance–salsa and other stuff–you need to dance with different partners. Try going with a group of friends or make friends at a class and you can dance with other people and not feel creepy.
May 3rd, 2007 at 6:16 pm
I dont think it is appropriate, however in the spanish world it is accepticaly practice
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May 3rd, 2007 at 6:21 pm
No don't do that. It will only lead to trouble
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May 3rd, 2007 at 6:23 pm
It's only appropriate if your bf doesn't want to dance with you. If he does like to dance, and you go out with out him, then he has all the right to get pissed off. But who wouldn't wanna dace Salsa with they re GF ? i think it's great foreplay !
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May 3rd, 2007 at 6:23 pm
I believe it would be fine. Especially if you started taking the lessons now and then started dating someone in a couple of weeks/months. On the other hand, if you were married and your husband thought it was not a good idea, I personally would not do it. But then again, I would make sure his views were for my best interests and not of his pure jealousy.
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May 3rd, 2007 at 7:04 pm
I don't see a problem. My wife and I salsa and when we go out together we dance with different people. And since we often live apart, we go dancing alone or with friends frequently. There is little reason to be jealous if it is just dancing (and you can tell when its not). Salsa is SENSUAL not SEXUAL. I should add, to learn to dance–salsa and other stuff–you need to dance with different partners. Try going with a group of friends or make friends at a class and you can dance with other people and not feel creepy.
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May 3rd, 2007 at 7:21 pm
Once you're out of adolescence you'll find it's no longer appropriate to spend the night dancing with your boyfriend/husband. Circulation is the norm, and not doing so is a bit rude. If you think of it, there's even a line in "Chicago" (if you listen to Sinatra) about a man dancing with his wife suggesting it's quite uncommon. That's a bit of an overstatement, but you get the point.
I dance a lot more ballroom than salsa, but I'm not averse to it, and in both venues, and a few others, there's routinely a dearth of us guys, and half the husbands are there under uxorial coersion. If they don't want to dance, that's their choice. And if your boyfriend's watching, you can tone down the sexy part. That's actually less "threatening" than the extreme sensuality of rumba, after all, and salsa's too fast for real sensuality except in highly choreographed routines which aren't a consideration on the social dance floor.
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May 3rd, 2007 at 8:54 pm
I recently took up salsa dancing, and love it. My BF doesn't have the time to come with me ever nor does he enjoy it so much. So my partner is another guy. I very much enjoy dancing with my partner, he is very good at what he does. My bf knows I dance with him all the time and I show him what moves we work on and he trusts me. I feel comfortable dancing with someone other than him, and my partner understands I have a bf(whether he likes it or not). I think that if I ever felt tempted in any way then it would be different. I guess what I am saying is I do have a bf and a male partner and everything works. I actually just left class, I think anyone of us tempted or not know each other and trust each other. Ever seen, Shall we dance? same thing….. The way the dance looks is sexy and hot but the feelings I have when I am doing it with anyone aren't.
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May 4th, 2007 at 8:37 am
It's just dancing, darlin. Once you start dancing a lot, you find out that you dance with a lot of people, and it has nothing to do with romance or sex. When I look hot on the floor with my partner, it's not because we're turning it on in a sexual way, it's because we've got great connections and we're really hitting it. On the other hand, if you really like dancing and you want to learn more about salsa, what's your bf's problem? He can't bother to take a few classes with you or go out to a club now and then? Salsa dancing is fun. With me, if I knew a girl who just didn't want to dance period, I don't honestly think we'd be dating. She doesn't have to be as serious as me, but she at least has to dance with me a little bit. As far as your dancing is concerned, I would say he just will need to grow up and get over it. He'd have to do that anyway, but especially since he isn't getting up to the plate and doing this simple thing with you.
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